People who truly thrive in life are the people who are willing to do the things no one else is willing to do. Like just sit without getting distracted without touching ones smartphone or meditate, that’s including the ability to do the hardest sets in the gym. Most people are not willing to do that because of the story they tell themselves as to why they can’t and why they won’t.
People feeling and believing strongly that they can’t do stuff that is hard but obviously right thing to do at that moment, mostly do not value the importance of delayed gratification. If you really want to succeed in anything, If there’s a fire in your heart to do something it’s going to take way more than you think and you talk about. There will be days where you are down.
Kids are the wonderful human beings. They’re energetic, there are days where they will be screaming, yelling, banging and breaking stuff. It irritates you but that’s not a reflection of them rather a reflection of our inability to respond to that stress. Yes there are days when that stuff bugs me. If my wife is irritating there’s nothing to do with her and everything to do with the way my body is sensing. It is more about the self narrative that you tell yourself. Do you want to deal with the inconvenient and stressful situations gracefully or just snap at them.
It’s really hard to create this mindset that I want to be to be a champion lifter in the gym, it is hard to build a mindset to give my best service in the job, it’s really hard to create this mind that’s this romantic caring husband to my wife, it’s really hard to create this this dad who’s able to play toys and jump with my son. It just takes mindful effort and consistent practice.
This is where being committed to something daily, creating a routine that gives a chance for you to struggle, face challenges and overcome them makes you show up with your strong mindset. You will be game to play with your kid, say rhymes and jump with kids, talk and listen to your wife, sit and meditate, control your urges to constantly get distracted, resist various temptations that are not good for us .
I consciously say to myself that I must not be stressed and must not show it . I must not bring home work related stress. I must be fully present when I am with my kid and wife.
I have to sometimes take a deep dive into my own mind to understand why I must go in there and have a good hard workout. I’m tired I don’t want to go. I’m hungry there are lots of other places to be than going to the gym. But at the same time thoughts like – What I have to do, who do I have to become, Who am I, Why am I here , Who am I impacting, How am I helping others in the world, Why am I doing this – These thoughts fuel me up.
Explore your self doubt . Where’s it coming from, why is it there and realize that it’s probably some story that you’re telling yourself or maybe someone in your past planted these thoughts or some belief that has been kind of cast on you from your parents or someone in your past. It’s not a bad thing and maybe it’s a fuel. Maybe it just requires you to forgive everything and then thanking them. Being legitimately truthful and grateful to them to say thanks for making the person that I am and allowing me to be stronger and allowing me to be resilient to stress
If there’s something that’s hard in your life now it’s because you need to grow. So I intentionally try to bring those challenging things into life.
Why not do some meditation at night before sleeping. Why not daily try to write down my thoughts and journal my experiences. Why not spend time with kids even though you are tired and hard pressed with time. Why not spend quality time with wife talking various things. Why not do workouts daily that gives that strength and positive fuel to mind to take on the day, why not do intermittent fasting that challenges you mentally and physically and gives you a chance to prove to yourself that you have the will and self control to stick to a lifestyle.
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