Sometimes we need to be like a speed governor in a vehicle or we could also call ourselves to be like brakes of a vehicle.
In order to control the extreme emotional and erratic behaviour of different people in our family you must choose to develop the mental and emotional strength to handle the circumstances. You need to be emotionally resilient to stay level headed during stressful times in family life.
Similar to how a speed breaker on the road takes the entire force from vehicle to slow it down on the road or similar to how a break takes the entire friction to slow the vehicle down, sometimes you must take the heat and stress to keep the family dynamics in balance.
You might be misunderstood, you might be criticized, you might have take the harsh words of your own people but sometimes that is what you could do to keep things running in the greater interest of your family.
People who are emotional manipulators, who do emotional blackmail, who do drama for trivial things will not take responsibility and cannot behave responsibly. It is up to you to deal with them and not to get offended by them. It is also up to you how much time to spend with them and how you get insulated from their negative attitude.
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