People will take responsibility for the consequences of their decisions and choices in life if they are doing well. We tend to blame external circumstances and complain if things are not working out for us. It is true that we are masters of our destiny but only the successful people accept it.
Similarly we attribute the our traumas and tragic events in life as a reason for us to become the strong person we are able to take leverage of past horrific events. On the other side we blame our traumas and negative events in life if we are unable to overcome them and do well in life.
Whether we overcome a past trauma or horror in life depends on the level of self-awareness we develop and number of times we break the survival patterns we developed to protect ourselves at the time of a stressful event.
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