Marshall Rosenberg, the developer of Nonviolent Communication, said, “Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need”.
For example, when someone criticizes a partner, they may be expressing an unmet need or desire. It could be a way of asking for something, but it may result in the opposite of what they want. Instead of criticizing immediately, someone could try to reflect on why they are angry, what they want, and where it is coming from.
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