How do we develop the mindset of not quitting and seeing it through the end? For instance in gym, we develop that strength and stamina based on the number of repetitions we are willing to do after we enter the state of pain. It is the attitude and the perspective that helps you in sticking to your path when the going gets hard. This principle is valid in gym and in life as well.
Most people are not willing to put in that extra work for well being because of the self limiting beliefs and excuses. We justify and build a solid story behind the sorry excuses we give to ourselves and skip the stuff that is supposed to be done.
You would realize that you can observe more opportunities and possibilities once you let go of your ego, then accept your mistakes to learn from them and grow. This is what I did in my earlier days of my fitness journey, where I tried to define my own rules when it comes to exercising, diet and supplementations. Some of them worked and most of my practices did not. When I started to read expert books and watched hundreds of videos online, I realized that there is a huge science behind health and fitness in general. Everything written in the books or said in the video might not work, but we need to take one relevant thing at a time , try it, practice it and test it for a while. If it works then continue with it, else try something else. But everything needs time and effort for us to see the results and take a decision. So this is a process, and a journey which is not always exciting. Hence perseverance and patience is required.
Finally it all comes down to doing the best I could do even on my worst days.
Focusing on today and doing your best with the best of your abilities would develop confidence and respect towards ourselves. Why? Simply because we are trying our best to keep our word and stand by our decision. Whether it is you being present fully with your family, playing with the kids, giving full effort in gym and giving 100% at work. In this way you are fulfilling all your objectives to the fullest without diversions which only increases the value you are adding to your life daily and building the blocks for your future wellbeing.
For developing this attitude, you need to keep doing things that you find difficult or disinterested. Most of the activities in life which are hard or painful are the ones that are absolutely essential for us to grow to the next level or improve our standard of living. They help us to change and grow. When we try to intentionally include certain activities like yoga or meditation or even strength training or training for a marathon or starting a new exercise regime, they will test our will and ability to focus to learn new skills. They will also test our determination to learn new things and willingness to stay consistent to see results.
Integrity plays a huge role in staying true to yourself and being accountable. We need to keep checking how mush of the self-talk are we actually realizing in life. Integrity defines your identity and the value you give to the promises you made for yourself. Integrity is doing what is right and adhering to decisions you made. It is doing the right thing even when it is difficult, even when no one is giving credit, even when it is boring and painful, even when you are opposed and criticized by majority.
Your integrity influences your collaborations with others. The kind of trust established in a relationship is defined by your integrity. It could be simple daily tasks like respecting alarm early morning and waking up. Not missing a workout. Taking your kids to school on time. Not missing a deadline in office. Being present at important family events that matters. It is walking the talk and talking what you practice.
Perspective is important . They way you value various things in life defines your level of success or happiness or even achievements. When you face challenges and difficulties, instead of saying I don’t want to get into this, if you say I could do this, I will try my best, it builds your confidence because you ventured into unknown territory and tried something new. Just changing the perspective towards the natural events of life could bring in more possibilities to grow and achieve more in life.
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