Thinking too much of the past makes us feel depressed and thinking too much about future makes us feel anxious. A healthy dose using past experiences for the benefit of what you are pursuing currently allows us to feel less depressed about hurtful events in past. Taking action and doing the work you are supposed to do reduces anxiety. Focusing on controlling the factors that are in your control instills faith and makes you hopeful about better tomorrow. So being mindful of what you are pursuing right now, putting faith on the work you are doing currently, believing in yourself and being less concerned about what others are accepting or rejecting about us and focussing on what you can control are some ways to handle mental states that suck energy out of us.
One solution is to constantly work on self. Recognising our talents and mastering them to become skillful. Making the purpose of our life to work on our passion and perfecting the craft. Then give meaning to your passion by putting it to good use for resolving the problems of the society. By doing so, you are working on what you love so that you are willing to take in struggle and failure as part of the journey. When you focus on the process of becoming someone for achieving something in life, you are in the present moment with a gratitude for past and faith for future.
Another solution is to find what is more important than you, what is the work of life, what is one thing that you feel is bigger than yourself, what is your mission and vision for life. Then work on pursuing that as a continuous process of improvement through selfless outpouring of your energy and resources for the attainment of the Nobel goal.
Another solution is to provide, protect and support the people that you feel are more important than yourself. When your heart goes out for such people in your life and if you do everything and anything for them to provide a better quality of life and put them in front of you, then that is a noble way of living life which leads to a sense of gratification and fulfilment.
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