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Always remind yourself of the carrying cost in life whether you buy something or whether it is about your identity. What is the baggage you are carrying that is a burden and not helping you. What desires and requirements are good to have but not essential in life. When you are consuming something, you are either investing your time, money, physical energy or mental energy. Assess if you are getting appropriate positive return on your investment. There is always a cost you need to carry when you take a decision. Ensure that the carrying costs do not outrun your revenue and savings. Your respect, autonomy and freedom are more important than the things that you own.

~Praveen Jada

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Hunger the evidence the existence of food
Pain is the evidence the existence of pleasure
Desire is the evidence for the existence of discomfort
Your libido is the evidence for the existence of mating

Your seeking and searching for the meaning of life is evidence for your craving to feel valued by others for what you offer to the world. You fill the god sized hole in our mind by realizing our true potential and then putting it to good use for betterment of the world around you.

~Praveen Jada

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RICE
R – rewards
I – ideology
C – coercion
E – ego.
Work on a person’s ideology ego and rewards before going into coercion mode.

Perception is different from perspective. Perception may not be based on reality and perception is highly coloured with ones emotions and feelings. Perspective is taking an objective look at with very less bias towards anything. Clarifying our perspective towards something enables us to be critical of our perception of something which helps us to be more rational and less judgemental.

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Not everyone believes what I believe and they do not need to believe what I believe. They are not supposed to believe what I believe because my beliefs are my own and I must have confidence in them. My belief and my faith do not want other people to follow. My believes or not so weak that I need validation from other people and I do not believe that my believes are strong only when other people approve of them. I am not at the mercy of other people’s opinions and rejection of the way i think and live.

~Praveen Jada

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Visible stressors – These are the ones that you can feel them immediately or gradually after doing (or not doing) something or performing (or not performing) an activity.

Examples:
Not exercising or over exercising.
Not eating food for long time.
Dehydration.
Eating high fatty food or high sugary food.
Insufficient sleep.
Getting hurt physically or mentally.

Invisible stressors – These are the ones that you do not feel and cannot feel but they show up as different negative symptoms physically or mentally or emotionally.

Examples:
Vitamin and mineral deficiencies. Like vitamin D3 or B12 deficiencies, magnesium deficiency.
Hormonal imbalance (Low or High).
Insulin resistance.
Liver or Kidney disfunction.
High inflammation.

~Praveen Jada

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We age faster with aggressive pursuit of comfort, convenience and instant pleasure. we get into disease and internal disorder when we are constantly in the pursuit of quick fixes and continuous avoidance of the constructive stressers that makers stronger, fitter and healthier. We age faster and get diseases more often when we deprive the micro and macro nutrients to our body and brain.

Somehow we reached a point where we consider ourselves above the other species on this earth. We got convinced that natural laws of nature are not applicable to humans. So we exploit our gifts aggressively without feeding them with proper nutrition and rest to recover.

For example, if we have a plant which is having dry leaves and not growing well then we call in the experts to have a look at it. Even without experts it is common sense even for us to first check the quality of the soil, the water that it is getting, whether it is getting sunlight and the environment that it is growing. We do not apply some green color or hide the dry leaves just to make it look better immediately.

So we understand that we need to find the root cause of the disease or disorder instead of looking out for quick fix in the form of medicine. A medicine may address the symptom which appears in the form of pain or discomfort but not the real issue deep in the body. In many cases it could be just the imbalance of nutrition and a deficiency in vitamin or mineral which would be triggering a cascade of illness on surface.

~Praveen Jada

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Your identity must be connected to who you are and not what you do or achieved. You identify must be attached to the things that cannot be measured and immaterial.

Meaning your sense of worth and self-respect must rely on your core values and who you are as a person like you are a person who values being a great parent or a spouse, you are a person who is trustworthy, you are a person who has high integrity, you are a person who is committed to ones decisions and promises, you are a person who shows up and never quits, you are a person who is resilient, you are a person who values selfless work and service, you are person who takes care of ones well-being and health to be strong and independent in long run, you are a person who value self-development and continuous learning, you are a person who value progress and growth for a fulfilling life, you are a person who wish to be an asset to others rather than being a liability, you are a who attach your value and worth with working on your skills and serve a purpose in this world.

On the other hand when you attach your importance and identity to material possessions like money, fame, reputation, recognition and rewards, power and control, likes and following on social media etc., then you keep fluctuating and cannot have a strong identity. As these are all incertain and subjective, their value and worth change with time and circumstances. You will have nowhere to go when the value of the material thing you possess diminishes or when someone else has more of money or name or fame or following or rewards or stuff than you. Your identity suffers and you suffer when you link your worth with things that only have material value in nature.

~Praveen Jada

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• When it comes to health, wealth, and love, if you think you don’t have a problem, then you have a problem. They need constant work and nurture.
• Sexy and exciting results come from doing all the boring things well.
• Consistency matters more than intensity.
• People will tend to feel about you the way you feel about yourself.
• One day you will look back on your problems today with nostalgia and fondness. Learn to appreciate them now.
• The only thing all of your problems have in common is you.

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People who are into gambling and lottery are more excited about the prospect of losing than the prospect of winning. Because there is far more higher chances of someone losing in a game of randomness then the possibility of winning. So you racing against uncertainty and betting against your odds which gives you an instant high when you win. You experience a bigger rush of joy if you win when you are expecting loss. Your dopamine levels raise when you go through a risky process and come out victorious.

The idea of ‘near miss phenomenon’ and the experience of ‘just missing’ something stimulates us to do the same activity again. You having control to do it again and again, then the results of the behaviour being unpredictable leading to greater anticipation of a positive outcome and then finally you having an option to repeat the same activity in the hope of getting what you desire leads to uncontrollable and addictive feedback loop.

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YOU –

• Being happy makes other people angry.
• Being productive makes other people scared.
• Being strong and healthy makes other people feel bad about themselves.
• Working hard and being in control makes other people feel guilty.
• Achieving something and pursuing something extraordinary makes other people insecure.
• You standing up to your decisions remind other people of their broken promises and indecisions.
• Being able to what you can control and taking responsible for everything that happens to you makes other people weak and vulnerable around you.
• Being self-reliant and taking control of your life makes other people inferior in front you.
• Becoming powerful by doing what others choose not to do because it is difficult makes others powerless before you.
• Rejecting to be a victim of circumstances infuriates people who live on entitlement and sympathy.
• Not following the mass hysteria makes you the look strange and crazy.

So, people who are drifting and sailing through the life casually ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they belittle and insult you, then they would attack and punish you. If you endure all these phases with hope and faith, the world turns towards you for leadership and guidance.

~Praveen Jada

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Don’t create reasons after taking decisions but have meaningful reasons for taking a decision. There must be a strong WHY for every decision you take. Your resolutions in life can be achieved only if you have a real purpose and meaning behind them. You can stand by the promise you made to yourself only if there is a strong enough reasons for behind it. Your ability to stay on track when journey gets tough is directly proportional to your reasons and purpose for doing it. The HOW becomes easy when your WHY is strong.

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• don’t let anyone convince you what to believe
• don’t let anyone convince you what to value
• don’t let anyone convince you what to think
• don’t let anyone convince you that you have to be dependent on system
• don’t let anyone convince you that you need to follow the crowd
• don’t let anyone convince you that you need to what everyone does
• don’t let anyone convince you that you have no control over yourself
• don’t let anyone convince you that you are helpless and hopeless in this complex world
• don’t let anyone convince you that you do not have power and autonomy over yourself
• don’t let anyone convince you that you do not deserve something in life
• don’t let anyone convince you that you are supposed to be like this and like that
• don’t let anyone convince you that you are not enough to have great things in life
• don’t let anyone convince you that people in authority are always right as that are human
• don’t let anyone convince you that your heros are flawless as they are humans
• don’t let anyone convince you that you are not unique

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Do not neglect and postpone the very things that make you happy in the pursuit of something ultimately to possess the very things that you sacrificed. Almost all people who achieved great things in life like top achievers and heros in any space have two regrets in common at the end of their life which are neglecting their wellbeing and health and then not taking care of their close relationships.

Do the things that you are capable of or else you will run around doing those things that others want you to do just because they are incapable of doing them. You may dance to the strings in other’s hands. We all have some gifts and virtues we have been give. If we do not leverage on the things that we are capable of, then we are not realizing our full potential. Because of this behaviour we become distressed and unhappy about the way we are spending our time. We create empty gaps in our mind with our procrastination and lack of courage to do what we are made to do. Then we fill in those gaps with instant pleasures and drift through the time. By gossipping, talking about stuff you have no control over, spending hours of time watching sports or movies or political religiosity we make others wealthy while depriving ourselves the valuable time which we can use for our productivity. We spend time becoming a tool to run other’s ideologies instead of working on realizing our own dreams.

~Praveen Jada

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Humans love certainty and familiarity. One such example for it is that in one of the studies few people were told that they might or might not receive an electric shock and few people were told that they would definitely receive an electric shock in a regular interval. So during this study, it has been observed that the people who received electric shock at a regular interval experienced lesser stress than the people who were do not know when and if they would receive an electric shock at all. So the suspense of not knowing what happens next made them more anxious than the people who took the shock but were sure when they would receive it. In a sense, being certain about a negative event made them mentally prepare for it in advance which made them feel less stress than the other group.

~Praveen Jada

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Historically world has been controlled and captured by charlatans and dictators by telling stories to people that they love to hear. Those kind of stories that massage them emotionally and instill an imaginary sense of pride. People are slaves to false sense of security and freedom.

Most of us give up long term happiness and freedom for immediate pleasure and impulses. We know what is good for us, what makes us strong and self-reliant in the long run but we get tempted to give into our short term impulses. We neglect our long term values for submitting to what we want here and now.

People will be willing to trade their real freedom and autonomy for a promise of safety and security which they they believe that they do not possess. Reality is that they already are reliant and capable, but do not want to acknowledge because of fear. It is the fear of unknown and uncertainty. It is unfamiliar and uncertain because they have never tested themselves to discover who they are and the potential within themselves. When we are dependent on what is being said to them and fed to them throughout our lives, it feel unsettling to take full responsibility for our life . It is easier to stick to the status quo instead of critically thinking. It is easier to acted upon by external factors then to act with integrity and autonomy.

~Praveen Jada

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