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People are craving for attention and be identified

All this new hype about all this topics on climate change, lgbtq, etc., and a whole lot of topics are not relevant few years back is coming from a sense of insecurity and sense of lack of identity. People associating themselves with one topic to become part of a group and indulging in group thinking. Many young people are finding importance virtually by becoming part of a community to voice their opinion. They are finding excitement and their significance by the likes and dislikes of others. This is all coming from the feeling of powerlessness, hopelessness, helplessness and the feeling that they do not have control over their life.

~Praveen Jada

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Aristotle’s 10 principles

  • Name your fears and face them.
  • Know your temptations and control them.
  • Be judicious in using your resources.
  • Give more and expect less.
  • Focus more on transcendent and sublime.
  • Focus on majors and disregard the trivialities.
  • Control temper.
  • Never lie especially to yourself.
  • Stop bickering and struggling for your fair share.
  • Forgive others for your peace of mind.
  • Remember your mortality.

~Praveen Jada

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Don’t run your agenda on others

Becoming immortal and vying for legacy by rubbing your agenda on others may not be a recommended way of living ones life because it could compel a person to drive an ideology that may not work of others.

One can become immortal by leading a meaningful life that creates something that exists only because you are here. You did something that only you could do and that positively impacts others . Meaning your unique thinking and intention solves some problem in the world. Your work is not only making you better but also is making others better. It is like you becoming wealthy is making others also wealthier. Your work and service is your contribution to this world which could be consumed by others. Another way to of leaving a legacy is by having kids and parent them properly.

~Praveen Jada

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You hate yourself when you break your promises

One of the worst forms of self hate and self hurst is to break your promises that you make to yourself. When you do this , you would also break your word that you give to others. Doing this will make you disrespect yourself and reduces your self esteem which in turn increases the feeling of guilt. Many people would do more of the same shameful things to normalize them and make it a habit for them. The more you do it , the more the habit becomes part of you.

So you need to break this cycle and first start keeping your promises to yourself. Once you say something in your mind, you need to stand by it. You cannot skip it just because no one has heard it. You need have the honest to stand by your word. Don’t even say it in your mind if you don’t want to do it. This automatically develops the mental muscle to keep your word not only to yourself but also to others. You gain self-respect and confidence by keeping the word and promises that you make. The best form of respect is self-respect. Don’t expect any respect from others if you do not respect yourself internally.

~Praveen Jada

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Your personal philosophy and identity

Your personal philosophy is nothing but the way you think the way you handle yourself. Your personal philosophy is your Outlook towards this world, the way you respond to external circumstances and events in this world.

The personal philosophy is made up of your experiences, your learning and unlearning, your beliefs and values, how the world identifies you and how you look at yourself, your thought process, the way you respond to your feelings and emotions, your behaviour and actions, the way you plan and prepare for the future, your decision making skills and choices.

You personal philosophy are the standards and principles you live by .

Your identity is defined by the level of commitment you have in living by your philosophy. Your identity is who you are. You are a sum total of your values and beliefs, your objective and subjective thinking, your emotional intelligence, the way you respond to the events outside your control, the way you live your life with your decisions and choices, the way you show up for others.

The stronger your commitment to personal philosophy is , the stronger is your character and identity.

~Praveen Jada

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People get attracted to certainty

Assuring certainty is a huge way of persuading people and make people follow you. People are take note and become attentive when you prove that you are certain about something. It could be positive or negative, but if you are confident about it and show them certain solution, they jump with you. Our brains are a slave to familiarity and certainty. The more familiar they find something and the more certain they feel about something the safer they feel with less inhibitions. So make people feel comfortable, certain and familier and you have their support.

~Praveen Jada

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It is easier to lose weight than to maintain it

why is it relatively easier to lose weight but it is very difficult to maintain that that weight after losing it. Because when you are losing weight you are in the pursuit of better things and you have goals to attain. If you are a person who is tracking your weight lose regularly, when you see the needle moving lower, you get a sense of reward. Our brain releases a rush of dopamine for us to remember the moment and do it even more. Further more when you ar elosing weight it is a process of exploration and experimentation. It is trying new things and achieving new targets. This makes us feel good from time to time and we get to experience rewards by hitting our targets. Even though you need to eat healthy, exercise regularly and sleep on time, all this journey is new to you and you are in the journey of learning not only about yourself but also about food , exercise and other things. This system of tasks will keep us motivated until we reach certain weight point beyond which is unhealthy for us go any lower.

Now you need to do certain activities repetitively and have discipline to follow certain rules to maintain the fitness level and weight you achieved. After a while the rules and processes are common and mundane which are having discipline, having consistency and staying committed to keep our promise. At this point we do not see may rewards except we need to be conscious of the benefits, energy and mental clarity that our healthy lifestyle is offering.

Unfortunately, many people gradually lose motivation and give in to external events and compulsions. Gradually, they become indisciplined and slowly fall into the old unhealthy patterns.

~Praveen Jada

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You will struggle and have regrets in life, but you have a choice

You will struggle and have regrets in life. It is all about choosing your struggle and regrets in life. There will always be trade offs.

Sitting in pain and discomfort must become our nutrients. Exposure to unfamiliarity is a must in life. Embrace suffering as part of life and suffering gives you an opportunity to discover your true potential.

a sensible man accepts the existence of evil and plan and prepare accordingly.

~Praveen Jada

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The first step to become better is to not make things any worse than they are now

The first step to become better is to not make things any worse than they are now. This common phenomenon takes place in all of our lives especially when negative unexpected things happen in our lives. More so when we have to face the burnt without our mistake.

It is normal to feel like a victim when something bad is done to us. We unconsciously seek help and sympathy from others in those situations. At the same time we feel helpless and hopeless due to low energy state of mind. It is fine to grieve for a while but we need to get conscious of the fact that no one and nothing is going to come and save you.

The longer you stay in the miserable state and thinking more and more about the unfortunate event the more you feel like you are helpless and your future is hopeless. This pushes you into inaction mode. Your mind rationalizes your indecisiveness and justifies the negative thoughts you get at the moment. Gradually you take decisions and make choices in such a way that would make your situation worse.

What happened to you may not be your doing and responsibility, but healing and recovering is 100% your responsibility. It is hard but it is true. People around may help or support to an extent but it is you who need to take action and decisions. The only ray of hope and light is in the path of taking full responsibility of the life from this moment. We become better only by taking better decisions from this moment.

~Praveen Jada

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We underestimate and neglect the problems in future

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. – Chinese saying

Confucius, great Chinese Philosopher, wrote this beautiful sentence back in 550 BC: “We have two lives; the second begins when we realise we only have one.”

We underestimate the problems in future and overestimate the problems in the present. We underestimate the long term happiness and give importance to immediate rewards. Meaning we simply avoid beneficial pain and suffering in the present moment which reaps rewards years after. This is one of the reasons why we procrastinate. We believe that our future selves would deal with the problem more efficiently. We think that we may or may not get into that problem so why take any action now. we think that someone would take care of us. We think that something would be in place to handle the unexpected situation if it happens.

Postponing a problem would not prevent it from happening but only extends it . It may even compound and may become even bigger problem to deal with in future.

Think what happens in long term ,
if you do not eat healthy foods
if you do not exercise regularly
if you do not sleep properly
if you mismanage your emotions and stress
if you ignore your family time
if you spend more time watching news, sports, social media instead of working on yourself.

~Praveen Jada

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We are what we eat but more importantly we are what we think

We are what we eat but more importantly we are what we think. Out thinking comes before our behaviour and choices we make. Decision making is a result of how we think which impacts how we feel at that moment. So we are who we think we are. If I think I am a health conscious person then i feel and behave like a healthy person which makes me take healthier decisions. If I think I am a responsible person, then i behave like a responsible person who takes accountability for my decisions.

~Praveen Jada

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Traumatic experiences are like warning signs on road

Painful and negative experience which we can also called trauma are very important for us to create a better future. If we come in terms with our past trauma, we can turn it an event that happens ‘for’ us instead of believing that it happened ‘to’ us. Traumatic experience can be identified and named like the sign boards on the side of a road or Highway. We need to look at them and take appropriate action instead of getting stalled and frozen in the moment. Traumatic events take us in to flight, fight or freeze mode. We remain in a fearful state unless we consciously choose to get out it. We adopt certain compensatory patterns to overcome trauma and pain which may be beneficial for temporarily but may be mal-adaptive and harmful in long term.