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• Am I really committed to achieving this goal?
• What needs to happen in order for me to move towards achieving this goal?
• What is the purpose ?
• What are the reasons ?
• ​What do I need to learn?
• What do I need to unlearn?
• What skill do I need to upgrade?
• ​Any support and help needed from others?
• What must I let go of?
• What must I start doing?
• What must I stop doing?
• What do I need to believe about myself in order to achieve this goal?
• What resources do I need to make achieving this goal a reality?

~Praveen Jada

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I fear public speaking, I get nervous when I speak in front of a large audience, I worry if I would be judged by others, I worry if I get into an embarrassing situation – After giving class room trainings, presentations in meetings, taking interviews, after hosting numerous meetings, this is high time that I should control this feeling and believe strongly that I have the ability to engage audience and I can definitely overcome this primitive irrational fear. For this I will take conscious effort to get involved in those events which will enable me to face this fear again and again until it subsides.

I find it risky to venture into my passion  – I was not having the needed maturity and clarity on what my passion. Now that I know what I am passionate about and love doing, I have to take all necessary steps to pursue my mission and life ambition

I worry if the effort and time would be wasted if I fail – Failure is part of the journey. Only thing to keep in mind is not giving up no matter what happens. It is those intense disappointing helpless moments that will make you stronger, resilient, learn and grow and come up with strategies that are more efficient. Don’t be afraid of failures. Be ready to face failures as challenges that life throws at you and keep moving forward in overcoming them. In that process you earn respect not only from others but you will gain a lot of confidence, courage and much needed self-assurance that you can do whatever you want if you strongly believe in. Look at how you conduct yourself at your job, remember that you have been a consistent high performer in office and received appreciations from customers, clients, managers, colleagues in many occasions. Remember that there was never an task you failed that was trusted upon you.

I fear I would fall short of money to live– You have saved decent amount of money. You are well settled and secured than many people around you. You do not splurge on material things. You are not attracted to material things or cars or watches or mobiles. You have self-control to spend on things that only add value to you. You have the ability to save money to spend it for your loved ones. You have a strong support system for emergencies. You can easily survive on your savings. So stop worrying about the money factor if you really want to do something on your own in your life. You are just looking out for some alibis and rational lies to escape from your ambition. So stop this thought immediately and do whatever you could to gather all the material, skillset and information needed to start making steps towards achieving you passion.

I worry if I have to give up on my personal family time, I worry if my relationship with my wife could turn sour – You have self-control and discipline to manage various aspects of your life efficiently. Look at how you take care of yourself, your health and fitness which definitely supports and helps you to give high performance both personally and professionally. Just memorize how many times you close ones appreciated you for your patience and open mindedness. Remember how others look at you and feel like emulating you in various aspects of life. Remember how you managed numerous instances where you pushed yourself to help and support your wife even though you felt completely tired and exhausted. Don’t forget that your wife loves you and she is capable enough to work extra if the situation demands. She is a strong person and you have to believe more in her.  It is your job to change your mindset and just ignore those few times where she might not behave in accordance to you.  You will handle your personal life and you will definitely balance. You will make sure that you will spend time with your kid and wife. You will make sure that they are happy. At the end this is the top most priority for me whatever I do in my life.

I feel people would not respond well to my idea and venture – Why not. Is health not important to people. Is fitness not needed in people’s lives. Are all people ignorant of the importance of healthy lifestyle. Why do you just assume and imagine that people might not respond well to something that is so valuable in their lives. Why do you think all by yourself that all people give low priority to health. And why you do you assume that people will not understand you and do not encourage you. It is a noble thought and mission to provide healthy lifestyle options to people. You feel from your heart truthfully that you could make a difference in next generation by promoting healthy lifestyle. You feel bad and helpless about how big companies are misleading and programming people to have unhealthy food. You want to bring change in people’s mindset. You just need to work on all necessary tools and skillset to make a strong impact and market your idea. First locally and then take small steps to expand, one step at a time. You will make a difference. At least the work you put in and the progress you are making will have a positive impact on your son’s mindset. He will cultivate good habits gradually and have a great positive lifestyle, your wife will improve herself. After all this gives more satisfaction than any other achievement. You could start with something and if your mission and vision is strong enough, you will attract the right people and opportunities. Just be patient and vigilant of any such possibilities and take full action needed. You will succeed if you have the will, power and passion to make a better community. You are trying to serve others selflessly to understand the concept of health and fitness using your business venture. When your mission statement is to contribute and bring a positive difference in other’s lives , you will find ways to realize your dream.

~Praveen Jada

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No wonder people are unhealthy and unfit eating all the junk food, loaded with unhealthy carbs, ultra processed food, adding sugar in everything they eat or drink, eating deep fried food. What are you feeding your body to feel lively energetic and alert. Added to that we do not care go to sleep on time and have some physical exercise. We watch all kinds of irrelevant and negative news on TV, spend hours watching mindless videos online and browsing social media. We also dump our body with toxins by smoking and drinking.

What we are doing here is basically get addicted to junk food and junk information. Subconsciously we inject agenda and propaganda of others into your mind. We are non-stop getting bombarded by information from all side whether we are at our home or driving or in office or walking. What do you expect now. Will exercising and sleeping well help you when you are dumping different kinds of unhealthy stuff into your body and mind feeling gloomy, hopeless with all the negative grave news promoted by different forms of media.

Many high paying professionals may not feel fulfilled by what they are earning and the kind of lifestyle they are enjoying. We tend to buy things or eat food or give into other diversions to just fill in the gaps and deficiencies we have in our lives. These are false impressions we have in our minds that we can compensate our drawbacks and inner demons with the material stuff. Reason for these kind of reckless behaviors could be anything like unable to commit to a healthy lifestyle and exercising, unable to stick to a diet, inability to remain consistent with the promises we make to ourselves, not maintaining healthy relationships with family, inability to spend productive time with kids, naming busy schedule for missing the promises you made, feeling that you are not good enough to achieve something you desire, believing that you don’t deserve something great in life, unable to have discipline to lead an inspirational lifestyle. We choose diversions to fake our sense of importance. We try to associate our value and reputation in terms of the car or cloths or house we own and the neighborhood we live in, we try to get along with people who do not match our mindset and try to emulate things that they are doing.

This is like trying consciously to make ourselves happier . That means we use all materialistic things to make ourselves happier. This is a never ending process and one could not be happy because they always find some other materialistic need to be happier.

We try to live our lives according to wrong programming we had from childhood. We grew up watching our parents and if our parents told us that getting a job will settle your life and that leads to happiness for the rest of your life, you have created a strong subconscious pattern that I need to get a job to be happy in life as it is associated with desirable partner, car, house, wealth, respect etc. During this process you would never consider the thought of what you are interested in and passionate about.

Being present in the moment, progress, learning and growing as we go through the journey of achieving something is more important that the goal itself. In the process providing some service and adding value to others keeps us going.

Moreover, now a days we are not doing anything to satisfy for our reward systems that are engraved evolutionarily in our brains. You would not earn relaxation and pleasure when you do not go through struggle and challenge. Current lifestyle would not give these opportunities to challenge ourselves physically and mentally on a regular basis. Our jobs are largely sedentary and stressful and many people working in jobs that they don’t want to do but still continue due to myriad reasons.

We go sit at our desks and do our mediocre work which many of us are not excited about and our brains are deprived of the main activities that involves challenge. Evolutionarily our brains had to experience pushing through pain, surviving, hunting, gathering, protecting the family as daily tasks. And the fact is that these are the tasks we feel rewarded and fulfilled. It is gives a sense that we did our duty, we went through struggle and felt great once we achieved it. It is in earing the reward after putting in the required effort gives the brain its necessary dose of healthy hormones and stimulus to build brain tissue. We are not getting the basic physical movement that is needed to keep ourselves prepared for the events ahead. You are not warning up for the day ahead. And then you keep stuffing yourself with random not so nutritious food through out the day at irregular timings. Now your body and brain constantly feel they are not getting what they are supposed to get. Next thing that happens is slow deterioration of your physical and mental abilities.

~Praveen Jada

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Key areas to focus to be a high performer. Content taken from ‘High Performance Habits” book by Brandon Bouchard.

• CLARITY . Improving this area gives you greater confidence in who you are, which decisions are right for you at this stage of your life, and what will make you truly healthy, wealthy, and happy. How could you gain more clarity in life right now? A simple thing you could do is to set an intention for who you want to be and how you want to interact with others right BEFORE you enter any social situation.
   
• ENERGY. Start some new daily practices that can help improve your mental, emotional and physical vibrancy. People really struggle with this one. Personally, my best habit is ensuring my environment is setup for me to win. Nutrition first. Then I protect my sleep and make sure I work out every other day. (The top 15% of high performers are 40% more likely to workout 5x per week!)
   
• NECESSITY . This measures the level of emotional commitment you feel to showing up each day as your best. It’s your level of “must” in improving your life and serving others with excellence. If you haven’t felt as driven or motivated as you want, this is a great area to focus on. Start with asking yourself every day at work, “Who needs me on my A game right now?” Really connect with who you are working for – sometimes we’ll do more for others than ourselves, right? The chapter on psychological necessity in my book is probably the most popular of all, so be sure to read that one.
   
• PRODUCTIVITY. It’s REALLY hard to achieve your long-term goals. Maybe it’s time to minimize distractions and start some new habits to master your time management and project planning? My suggestion is to NEVER check your email in the first 60 minutes of the workday. Use that time to strategize, get real work done, and reach out to those you are needing a reply from. Stay in offence, not reaction, in that first 60 minutes and you’ll win more days.
   
• INFLUENCE. This area of your life is EVERYTHING. When we can’t get people to believe in us, support us, buy from us, or take the actions we suggest, then it’s hard to ever get ahead. A good starting place is to focus on being a great role model, asking a lot of questions, and seeking to be more patient, compassionate and available to others.
   
• COURAGE. Do the people around you truly know who you are, what you dream of, what you need? Are you living your truth, taking risks, putting yourself out there? The next level for all of us requires a greater willingness to venture into the unknown despite risks or judgement. Try telling others what you REALLY think or feel more often, and take one small step into the unknown every day.

~Praveen Jada

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The problem isn’t that we don’t know how not to get punched in the face. The problem is that, at some point, likely a long time ago, we got punched in face, and instead of punching back, we decided we deserved it. The fact that we could not equalize means that there must be something inherently inferior about us, and/or something inherently superior about the person who hit us.

Life kicks you around a little bit, and you feel powerless to stop it. Therefore, your Feeling Brain (sub-conscious brain) concludes that you must deserve it. We don’t fight back. We accept the things the way they are. We tend to believe that we deserve many events in our lives even though we inherently feel that we deserve much better things.

Of course, the reverse moral gap must be true as well. If we’re given a bunch of stuff without earning it (participation trophies and grade inflation and gold medals for coming in ninth place), we (falsely) come to believe ourselves inherently superior to what we actually are. We therefore develop a deluded version of high self-worth, or, as it’s more commonly known, being a mean person and a bully.

Without developing a clear vision of the future we desire, of the values we want to adopt, of the identities we want to shed or step into—we are forever doomed to repeat the failures of our past pain.

The stories of our past define our identity. The stories of our future define our hopes. And our ability to step into those narratives and live them, to make them reality, is what gives our lives meaning.

**Excerpts form book “The Subtle Art of Not giving a F**k”.

~Praveen Jada

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In this day and age unless we have a goal or a mission or a passion that pulls us ahead, most probably we might get lost this is rut of life . Life in generally does not please us in all stages of our live. Life tries to kick us in our back the moment we wake up in the morning.

Whenever you have time – Try and introspect – how you want to look yourself in future, like inspiring others, creating some value for others, others showing immense respect because of the impact you made in their lives, giving an inspirational talk on a stage, you giving livelihood to others, you accomplishing something noble for which you have been rewarded when you are least expecting it and in that moment you acknowledging all the people who supported, encouraged, been with you through difficulties of life is something that you have to just imagine to relish the preciousness of moment.

The moments that you create and imagine in your mind, the amazing feeling of being revered because you have made a positive impact in other’s lives, for which you have tirelessly worked on some mission which is larger than yourself. When you cherish the struggles and pain you have endured during this process, when you picture all of these future possibilities in your mind, you need to get chills and feel grateful to even be in a position to imagine all these possibilities.

When we feel these kind of intense emotions when we think of our life’s passion and purpose, this should be strong enough to provide the fuel that propels us thought this journey called life.

~Praveen Jada

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• How to be grateful.
• How to be respectful and value the our time and how we spend our day.
• How to have a sense of urgency. How to keep working on something for a better tomorrow.
• How to just admire , be in awe, value and take care of the privileges and gifts we are conferred in our lives.

Just go online and watch some videos of

• somebody reacting when they were like blind for their whole lifetime and received eye sight,
• when somebody has been deaf for their lifetime and able to hear sound for the first time,
• when a homeless person is donated with some good food by someone,
• when somebody achieving a victory in Olympics after a lot of hard work,
• when a great actor or artist or humanitarian receiving award on the stage for their lifetime work and selfless contribution in that field,

Watch and listen to some of the stories of high achievers and performers on how they struggled, how they overcame their difficulties, how they suffered in various stages of their lives to achieve their vision, how they were persistent and consistent when they were physically and mentally exhausted yet kept moving forward in the path of their mission.

Watching and witnessing these kind of events would revoke a sense of gratitude in us. It gives us some space to rethink the way we are valuing our virtues in our lives. It creates a sense of value and respect towards the common amenities we are experiencing daily. It gives us a hope that we can do something, we can also contribute to the betterment of the people, we could live a life to leave a legacy, that we had a positive impact and improved people’s lives when we leave this world,

~Praveen Jada

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Let’s imagine a situation where somebody has hurt the finger. Since it is a small wound that person has decided to not address it by cleaning it, dressing it and applying an antiseptic ointment. Let us say it as turned septic. Still it is not a big deal, since it is a small wound and it is not affecting your physical performance, you would ignore and keep going with your stuff. Now slowly but steadily you would feel the pain and infection spreading across your body. Then you may have fever and had to take bed rest. Now if you do not address it even at this stage it could be life threatening.

This is how all insignificant yet very relevant and most important aspects of life are taken care of . Like health, relationships, seriousness in job, your wellbeing, your vision and passion. Now I strongly believe that this is relevant to all of us whether one is following a good lifestyle or not .

The lifestyle many people now a days indulge in, majorly involves instant gratification, avoidance of discomfort and struggle. This could be a non-issue today but results in unavoidable sufferings in various forms.

We need to constantly remind ourselves to show gratitude and respect towards some of the important values of life like – our ‘overall wellbeing’ which involves our mental and physical strength, our emotional life which involves nurturing our relationships and social connections, our spiritual beliefs which gives us hope and faith in times of difficulties. To have a certain level of stability in all these areas of values needs work. This work is intricately tied with change, discomfort, pain, struggle. Self-development and growth is not possible without these hard experiences in life.

We need to constantly remind ourselves that we are the best rescuers of ourselves. Who else would know better about you than you. We know our best interests and we are the best people to judge what works for us and what not. We have to prepared and keep preparing to save and rescue ourselves when time arrives.

~Praveen Jada

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You cannot set a target one day to achieve a world record for squatting or deadlifting. You cannot set a goal of running a Marathon one day and do it. You cannot set a goal of becoming a social media influencer and get 1 million subscribers in days. You cannot set a goal to get a six pack and achieve it in short span of time. You cannot set a goal to become a successful CEO of a company and reach that position in an year.

You cannot get that confidence and courage to reach the pinnacle in any area of life without a process and a journey. You set a goal and achieve it, raise the bar and achieve it and that’s how you keep improving keep building momentum.

How many people will keep up with the pace and give everything you could, to be consistent, to build that momentum, to keep exercising and follow a diet until you see the minor improvements to gain the initial confidence.

It is very easy for the people to just give up at any moment. It is easy to blame everything in the world except us. It is easy to give up , it is easy to blame, it is easy to complain, it is easy to feel jealous, it is easy to not show up, it is easy to talk negative things.

Mental state you approach anything , diets, routines, the way you decide to live, the things you want to do for a bigger purpose,  the mindset you develop when you commit yourself for some cause – There has to be some sacrifice or adjustments or compromises  in order to attain a higher standard .

All good things in life takes time, they do not happen overnight. Even if they happen, they vanish overnight. Easy come, easy go.

All successful people have gone through a lot of challenges, failures before reaching the level they are in right now. They

What did you do yesterday to give you the confidence to add an extra 10 KG weight on the bar bell. What was your previous bench mark and what is your new target. This is sustainable and achievable. This could be a constructive process which has better chances of adherence.

You would develop self-confidence to stick to a particular diet or exercise routine or a lifestyle only when you keep moving forward with minor interrelated achievements. It has to be step by step. You build a strong wall by laying a brick as good as possible. Brick by brick, it becomes a wall. This is how self-confidence builds and we get the courage to set a high target to reach a higher goal.

You just need to focus on what is ahead of you, what is visible to you, what is the best achievable target and set your eye on it. Hit the target and get that confidence that you can do it. With that confidence have the courage to set higher standards and surpass them. This is the process and system of progressive actions that builds self-confidence and courage to reach higher standards.

Progress and Growth are more important than Perfection. Consistent progress gives us the mettle to push ourselves to do worthy things in life. And remember that all worthy things are tough and hard to attain, hence we need confidence and courage to pursue our passions.

~Praveen Jada

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It is going to cost you something in your life when you are pursuing something larger than you especially that cause you are passionate about. It means you might have to give up something you love, you might have to make adjustments in life, you might have to compromise on your wishes and desires. It means you might have to pay a price for something that you didn’t even think or imagine of. You have to overcome unexpected scenarios which might need you to let go of your present comforts .

It is going to cost you some relationships. Not entirely cutting ties with them but may need redefining that way you interacted before. It might change the dynamics between your closed ones. No body other than you is going to gift you with anything that makes the process simpler and easier for you. It is you who has to make it everything you want it to be.

It is going to cost you a lot in terms of your time. You may have to put in a lot of personal time into your dream project. You might have to sacrifice a bit of your sleeping time, a bit of family time, a bit of your recreation time, a bit of your lunch time, a bit of your time you spend on watching online videos or tv and so on.

It will cost you in terms of you effort. You have to stretch yourself. You might have to push yourself harder. You might have to put in those extra hours outside of every regular task you must do daily. You have to work even when nobody is watching you. You have to relentlessly work on your passion, whether anyone cares or not.

Sometimes it might take 6 months or 1 year or 2 years or 5 years. Can you consistently keep nurturing your idea regardless of how the external factors influence you. Do you believe in it so much that you can keep going irrespective of the failures you experience.

It could cost you mentally. It could be a lonely journey. It is quite possible that nobody gives a damn about your idea. It is possible that no body except you believe in your idea and mission.

• Can you walk alone and believe in the road you are commuting.
• Can you  ignore all the negative talk, all the criticism, all the demotivation you receive from others and just believe your noble cause and proceed.
• Can you pursue your dreams in spite of no support, help or encouragement from others. Do not expect others to understand your passion and cause.
• Are you capable to understand others perception, keep ego aside and try to take them along with you as much as you could.
• Can you keep your family and close ones together and bring them along with you in the hard times, even though they don’t believe in your dream.
• Can you keep stepping forward alone without expecting anything from others until somebody joins you in  your march.

For so long I really expected all my loved ones to understand me, understand what I am doing why I am doing my vision. But they cannot because it is not their business to invest time on my purpose or my vision. It is my job to take them along, it is my job to set aside my ego and explain them my mission and kind of work that I am doing for a bigger purpose.

Are you willing to give up your personal time, comforts in the process of pursuing your dream and becoming success.

If you are pursuing something just for some monetary benefits, some likes on social media, for popularity, for becoming famous, for some selfish purpose that serves only you, if you think that this gives you happiness and success then you shall be disappointed at some stage.

Decide on which aspects of your life are you willing to trade and how much of them are you willing to adjust. If you are trading in your health and fitness for success, if you are trading in your family time for your happiness and future success, if you are trading in your relationships for your ambition, then you may not be satisfied at the end. Success and achievement at the end will be worthy if it is complete along with your overall wellbeing. You would not be fulfilled if you are unhealthy and successfully pursuing your mission, you would not be able to whole heartedly enjoy your accomplishments if your family is not along with you, your purpose is not worth it if serves only you and does not positively impact others, you would not relish the hardships and challenges in the process if there is no bigger cause and sense of contribution attached to your mission.

So weather it is the extra effort, extra discomfort, experiencing pain, facing challenges, pushing through the difficult times, taking risks, giving up something good for something better tomorrow, sticking with your purpose and mission, your vision, everything is with you and it is you who has to show maturity in balancing the important aspects of life to have a holistic experience of successes in life.

~Praveen Jada

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Some of the excerpts are taken from motivational speakers and inspirational talks

Every person born on this earth has limited number of breaths, a few or only one brilliant moment, a few amazing memories, very few or just one occasion to make your presence felt, a very few or only one chance to make a positive impact to the world around you and contribute for a better tomorrow, we might be given just a unique opportunity to shine in a moment for all the efforts and pains we went through.

Are you trying to make yourself count?

~Praveen Jada

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