One of the biggest takeaways that I have learnt and keep learning on a day to day basis is the way we talk to ourselves how we keep self-deprecating ourselves with our own self-talk. When our internal talk is negative and when we say things that keeps us stuck in the current situation, we generally do not see hope in getting out of the mess we are in.
Try these methods when you come across such bad or unfortunate situations.
- Imagine that one of your closest friends is in a sad situation. Your friend approached you for comfort and guidance.
- How will you talk to him/her.
- What kind of words will you use to get them out of depression.
- What advice will you give to improve their condition.
- What will you ask them to do and try out to get better.
- What kind of motivating words will you offer them in spite of their resistance to listen and misery.
- Take your mobile and switch on the recording. Now speak out loud whatever you are saying to yourself internally. Just record your internal talk openly and frankly. Now play it and listen to it. While listening evaluate below possibilities
- Would I want my children, wife or parents to hear this? Will they be proud of it or will they be demoralized when they listen to it?
- Is this something other people want to hear ? Is it worthy enough for others to listen to and look up to me?
- When someone listens to this, will it motivate them to step out of their self-pity and do something or will it encourage them suffer even further?
- Will this talk make someone get up when knocked down or Will it make them to give up?
- Finally, how do you feel when you listen to it yourself? Is this the best you could say to yourself? Is this talk making you hold your head high?
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