I’ll tell you why most people lack courage.
All of us walk through life with a lot of experiences. We do mistakes, fail, face shame and embarrassment, ridiculed, rejected, take wrong decisions and make bad choices, we get punished for our stupid mistakes, we ignore and neglect our values, we learn some unhealthy things from our parents and some from our friends and some from others, we get attracted to irrelevant things and lower our sense of worth, we tend to find ourselves pursuing meaningless and worthless things that lower our self-respect, we indulge in instant gratifications like eating, watching and listening to mindless stuff, browse, scroll through social media, smoke or drink, take drugs to numb ourselves, try to sek solace by watching , talking and reading the topics of religion, politics and sports, we control the uncontrollables, we compare, become consumers of stuff that is not needed .
Now imagine all these things are adding up to our memory as crap and it keeps growing. As the pile of crap grows, it stinks more and more. You have no other way to go but through it.
Now you’re walking through this crap and it’s getting deeper and deeper. it’s getting hard and it’s painful. It starts to get right up to your neck. A lot of people will stop right there in the middle of that pile of crap and they never make it out the other side right well. Most of the people normalize the unhealthy state they are in and crap they are stuck in. They will believe that they deserve to be the way they are and this is what life got has to offer them. They develop a sense of belonging in the crap and develop befriend like minded people who believe in the world of crap and who want to stay in the crappy life.
But very few people realize at some point in their life that they are wading through this pile of crap which is stinking and making their life miserable. They recognize that it is keep them stagnant and stopping them from realizing their true potential. It is debilitating and detrimental to not only to them but also to the ones that rely on them.
So try to pull themselves out of the crap slowly but steadily. As they are coming out of the crap, a lot of crap would be smeared on their body. It takes a long time to clean the crap. And some of the crap does not go.
Now while you are struggling to clean up and reviving yourself, everyone around them is looking at them is laughing and teasing that that they got crap on them. They look at the visible crap on them and say that they are nasty. You cleaning up from crap, you getting rid of crap that is not helping you, you smelling better than others who were your community before cannot be tolerated and you may be ridiculed and attacked for working hard to get out of the shitty situation.
Many people unable to handle their nay sayers and they’re ashamed and they go hide in the corner they never try anything again, they never try to put themselves in better environments. They feel they don’t deserve it, that they feel uncomfortable, that they feel insufficient, they submit to the pressures and taunts of the life.
is walk through the crap come out the other side
and when everybody’s looking at you and laughing at you
and thinking that you’re just a piece of crap you have to be able to look back at
those people right down the eye and when they say you got crap smeared all over you look down at yourself
and you have to say yeah I do but I’m gonna keep going
I’m gonna keep going and if you do that and you don’t allow the shame and the
regret and the the the the just the you know the heaviness of what you just
went through if you don’t allow that to stop you and you just keep going
all that crap that you’re covered in it starts to fall off of you right it starts to fall away and
eventually you’re good again but you cannot allow that to stop you and that is what stops
most people it’s regret it’s shame it’s the pile of crap they had to walk
through 10 years ago that they created and because of that they never do
anything with the rest of their freaking life man I hate that for people man because let
me tell you man there’s been so many times in my life I’ve made so many freaking mistakes
I’ve gotten covered in so much crap and everybody looked at me and said you are
a freaking turd and I said yeah I am a turd but guess what I’m Gonna Keep freaking going man
that pisses people off people attack me all the time you know what man nobody’s
gonna remember your mistakes unless you are successful in spite of
your mistakes unless you keep going while you’re covered in crap and when
you do that people look around at you and they say hold on just a minute man
he can’t do that he can’t be successful remember this remember all this crap
that he was covered in hold on look at the mistakes this guy’s made look they try to reel you back into that man
that’s what people want to do what they call it crabs in a bucket right they want to pull you back down into that
crap that you came out of it freaking pisses them off dude the stuff that I’ve done man
pisses people off so freaking bad and you know how it pisses off the most the
people who know all of my mistakes it makes them so mad cause I can look back
at him in the eye and say yeah man I’m just I’m gonna keep going
I love that I’m gonna keep going nobody’s gonna remember your mistakes unless you’re successful in spite of
your mistakes and you know why because most people make these big mistakes in life and they hide in the corner man and
nobody remembers you I don’t care what you did freaking 10 years ago man I don’t care what you did
yesterday you just gotta keep going that’s it that’s how you put yourself in
these environments to become who you want to be period there’s no secret
it’s painful it freaking hurts man and you’re gonna have people for the
rest of your life trying to remind the world about the mistakes you made that’s old
at the end because you are tempted to stop doing the things you’ve been doing all along because you’re just tired of
the monotony of them you have to keep doing it so many people fall victim to that too oh man yeah I
mean as you’re talking about this I’m just thinking about different times in my life where where I’ve fallen victim to it where you get
so close to the finish line and you let off you think you’re just you think that momentum that you
experienced up until the one yard line is just going to carry you across that finish line
but you can get Swept Away by a current so quickly and taken back another 99
yards to the beginning if you just become complacent and think
you’re passively gonna get there sometimes you might get away with it but sometimes it but more times than not
it’s going to cause a catastrophe and when it does it’s it blows up oh yeah yeah did I tell people all the time
especially in ultra running all or when we’re doing training events at 307 project it’s like
if we go out so so let’s say we go out and we want to do 100 miles like the first 98 miles
it’s it’s all just a process to get you to the last two miles
and that’s where you’re going to experience the most growth if you will keep doing the things that
you know need to be done like you experience the most growth in that last
mile um that’s just the way you have to endure this long process and and to get because
you’re you’re experiencing the most gross growth when you’re doing the things that need to be done
when you don’t want to be doing them that’s when you’re experiencing the most growth they
actually said this in my last Ultras uh Rocky Raccoon here in Texas it was
around mile marker 85 and I said this on camera I talked to the team everyone wants to experience
what mile 85 feels like everyone wants to know what 100 mile or feels like
but no one wants to go through this first 85 90 miles together they just want those last five to ten yeah and
across the finish line but to get to mile 80 85 90 95 you have to had changed out your socks
and maintained your foot care and ate your your fuel your nutrition stayed on top of hydration drank the water liketake care of Necessities to get your body to that point so you could fully Excel and get across the finish line but
what happens and I say to so many people you get the mile marker 80 85 90. people
are falling out people are dnfing they’re quitting because they decided I
didn’t need the fuel I didn’t need the water I didn’t need to change my socks I didn’t need the the electrolyte support
well you can’t get to the Finish Line If you don’t do the the basics the requirements that
help you and sustain you to get to that point nobody wants to endure the process man so we talked about earlier the number
one thing that I well one of the big things that stops people I’d say close to number one is shame probably the
number two is the fact that nobody wants to endure the process you’re exactly right they want to settle in
to some mundane life they want to settle into something that’s just
freaking easy form that’s just you know they they can just check the box
they don’t want to endure the process and in every thing in life that’s gonna
Trade-offs in life
that forces you to grow is going to require a long and arduous
process that’s in your your Fitness that’s in your faith that’s in your
journey as a husband as a father as a wife as a mother uh in every aspect of
your life you got to go through it man I think this is a good time to bring in trade-offs because you talked about this
in documentary we talked about this last night as well throughout that process there’s going to
be these decisions you have to make that are trade-offs like in the film you’re talking about there was this trade-off
do I do I stop running for a period of time in rest and through this rest I’ll
be a stronger Runner when I wake up or I keep pushing through hoping that my body just bounces back do I allow my legs to
have the ability to maybe come back alive there’s trade-offs in life dude do I
spend more time with my family and slow the growth of the business or do I maximize growth of business and
spend less time with my family these are decisions we have to make and there’s there’s pros and cons to all of
them what are these trade-offs for you like how what made you in this film during
this race talk about trade-offs I mean it became front and center it
became uh it just it became such a reality um and I love how you tie it back into
real life uh because in this race you know if you lay down for an hour and
you got some sleep you would wake up with a clear mind but your body would
get so dang stiff from just you get cold and stiff and you
would wake up and it was just almost it was horrific to get moving again I mean
it would take an hour and a half two hours for me to get to where I could start running again because my body got
so stiff um so it was something that was really highlighted
and you can’t you can’t avoid them I mean like you’re
you’re gonna you’re gonna have to make a decision to do one thing or the other and it’s not always going to be the
right decision and sometimes you’re you’re gonna look back on it and you’re gonna say
man I maybe I wish I would have done that a little different but ultimately
you know they’re going to be trade-offs like you said you just related it back
to life I think that when every one of us we like to think that we can find
this perfect balance in life it is not a reality it’s not a reality man like every one of
us we talked about this yesterday when we lay down to die which we’re all gonna die very
quicker than we probably think we are this time is flying by man but when that
moment comes for us every one of us we’re gonna look back on the trade-offs
that we made and we’re gonna be proud of some things that we were able to accomplish that we
were able to do and other things we’re gonna say
man I wish that would have looked a I wish that would have looked a little better right I wish I would have maybe put more
time into relationship than I put into business
um but that’s the reality for everyone
now does that mean you shouldn’t still work on trying to achieve
the best balance that you can possibly achieve no you should still work on that like
you should still be conscious of that you should still Implement things in your life that that that’s gonna make
things better right you should still consider priorities you should still do
all of that but we’re all created in a very unique way
and we all have the things that that we’re really good at and um and it’s there there’s going to
be a cost it’s like it’s such a cliche thing to say that
your biggest strengths will usually become your greatest weaknesses that’s
been the story of my life dude like my ability to stay so locked in and present
and focused and just drive hard I have to have other people in my life
that compensate for the repercussions of my ability to
do that like my ability to do these things and just stay so present
it causes repercussions in other areas and I have to bring people in to
compensate for that if we look at it in business like man when I have
when I have a group out to train with me like I am so if I can say I’m blessed
with one ability it’s the ability to forge a team because I’m so present with these people and I pour myself out
so like every ounce of myself I pour out into people when I’m with them
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