From early childhood we have to train our kids about the reality of the world and uncontrollable and controllable events that happens in our life.
Life is about growth, progress and improving ourselves as we move on. Improvement in any area requires changes.
We must not say that marriage changes us rather we must say that marriage is an important event in life and we need to improve ourselves to make our marriage successful.
We must not say that job changes us but we must say that we have to improve ourselves to have a successful job.
We must not say that having kids changes us rather we must say that change is part of having kids.
When something changes in life we are attributing negative connotation to it. We are attributing something unfamiliar and uncertain that happens as distressful. Rather we need to attribute the life events and unexpected situations as stepping stones for growth and practice for our future better selves. Various dufficut events may be the practice we need and deserve to get better in life in order to face the ups and downs confidently.
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