If you are going to someone explaining a problem or having a complaint then you must also be aware how would you feel when that is resolved and what’s the net for you. For example if your wife comes to you with some requirement and desire then she should also know how would she feel and take it when the desire is satisfied. If you are going to your boss with some requirement then you should also specify to him what are you going to give in return and how would it make you feel when your necessity is met.
Without this clarity and intention in mind all the requirements and desires will loose their value and excitement when they are achieved.
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