When you don’t listen to others, when you take your own decisions, when you make your own choices, when you take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life, when you are completely prepared and ready to accept any kind of consequences after the decision at least you will be in a position to accept what has happened and you will start doing something to resolve it.
Taking full responsibility and not comparing with others, giving importance to what you believe in rather than what others believe, not completely relying on others words and doing your own research and analysis, and making the best effort to take right decisions that serves your best interests would empower you. This will prevent you from falling into victim mindset when things go wrong.
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