It is almost impossible to find one thing that is responsible for everything else in life. But we link one bad event or a tragedy to everything that happens there after. We develop learned helplessness and believe to be a victim of circumstances which makes us a slave to our emotions. This mindset will makes things worse and does not help us to improve the situation. We derive energy out of our low energy states like enger, resentment, irritation, revolt, frustration, misery, sadness etc,. It becomes a positive feedback loop as we continue to bask in the misery we are in. The more we do something and think of something, the stronger the neural pathways become in our brain to trigger the same emotion and make it look worse.
The first thing we need to learn when a negative event happens to us is to not make the situation any worse. It is good to either stay put where you are or pull up your socks to get better.
We must remind ourselves that stuff that happened to us may not be our fault but correcting it and recovering is completely our responsibility. We should not allow the trauma to be the point due to which lots of others things happen in our life. We have the power to determine what happens after an event whether it is everything negative or positive aftermath.
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