As someone said,
A person who can stand against the common thinking of his own family and society, can achieving what he wants in life.
- Don’t waste time in explaining yourself to people who are committed to misunderstand you.
- Don’t over explain things to others because many people just hear what they want to hear.
- People will agree with you and join you when they want to. Some people may never understand you and it is completely fine. Accept it and strengthen your mindset to keep striding.
- As long as you are pursuing your passion which is not only in your best interests but also helping others in some or the other way, you need to continue doing it whether it is being appreciated or not. You will get the due recognition if you stay long enough.
- Other people especially your own loved ones will rub off their insecurities and fears on you when you are going against the conventional system of doing things. You own family would insult, demotivate you, scare you and behave as if you don’t matter just to cover up their own fear of missing you out, to hide their inability to work harder to be a better person and to feel less guilty by bringing you down to their level instead of raising their standards.
- Generally it is difficult for others to accept someone doing something different that has never been done in their family even though it is something great. Sometimes it may take a long time before your people join you in your journey and in few cases it may never happen.
- People will say what they want to say whether you do something great or you don’t do anything in life. What matters is what you say to yourself when you are not living up your ideals and standards in life.
- I think we live in a prison as long as we expect accolades and acceptance from others for what we are doing in life. You will be liberated on the day you respect yourself for what you are pursuing instead of seeking respect from others for something they may or may not care enough as you do.
- And don’t be judgemental when others are not believing in you and your goals in life. They may not relate to your vision as they might have a completely different mindset, different beliefs and values and different view of life.
- So what to do,
- Stop explaining yourself to people who lack the mental maturity and who do not have a purpose of their own to pursue in their life. If they are not on a similar journey as yours, then they most probably may not relate to your journey and vision in life.
- Reduce expectation from others and stop expecting less from life.
- Give selflessly and do not think about the returns. Give your services because you want to.
- Pursue your passion and do things that you love because they matter to you, not because they must matter to others.
- You must feel alive doing things that you love and do not expect others to somehow feel proud and look up to you for what you are doing. What you are doing might be great to you, but others may not even think of what is valuable to you.
- I know you want to improve other’s lives and help others, but do not go around with the intent of changing others. No one likes to be told what to do and what not to. They will come to you when they want your support and when they realize that you have something to offer that could benefit them. Until then hold on.
- Stop seeking validation and approval from others.
- Consider insults, rejections and failures as your vitamins and supplements that support your hard work.
- Stop feeling guilty for others anger, sadness and misery in their lives. Negative people will make you feel guilty for their own self created unhappiness in their lives.
- As long as you are taking right decisions, not harming others, sticking to your standards which are moral and ethical, doing something that is not only improving you but also benefiting others , you must not give into the negativity and discouraging words from anyone.
- Remember that it is our own loved ones who hurt us the most. So strengthen your mindset to ignore their words until they join hands with you wholeheartedly.
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