1. To flip the power dynamic in a confrontation, just ask: “Did you mean to say it that way?” 2. Let your breath be the first word you say. Especially when someone’s saying something you don’t like. 3. 5-7 seconds of silence after an insult is more powerful than any comeback. “If you’re going to […]
Tag: Mindset and Motivation
Differences between routine and ritual
# Routine1. Repetitive actions: Routines involve repetitive actions or tasks that are performed regularly.2. Practical purpose: Routines often serve a practical purpose, such as getting ready for work or school.3. Lack of emotional significance: Routines may not hold emotional or symbolic significance.4. Flexibility: Routines can be flexible and adaptable to changing circumstances. # Ritual1. Meaningful […]
Maranasati meditation – Your bliss lies through the tunnel of misery
Maranasati meditation, or mindfulness of death, is a Buddhist practice where one contemplates the inevitability of death and the impermanence of all things, ultimately leading to a more present and mindful way of living. It encourages a shift from fearing death to accepting it as a natural part of life, fostering a deeper appreciation for […]
Motive attribution asymmetry psychological concept
It is not about protecting ourselves because we love our community but it is more about to suppress others that hate our community. Dictators Motivate people and promote hatred by spreading propaganda that the other side hates us and we need to attack them. Disgust and hatred is more powerful than anger. Creating disgust makes […]
Peace is not finding calmer seas, it is building a better boat
“Calmer Seas” Represents External Circumstances: In life, the “seas” are the external conditions, challenges, difficulties, unexpected events, and interactions with the world around us. “Finding calmer seas” implies seeking a life where problems are minimal, where everything goes smoothly, where there’s no conflict, stress, or adversity.From a self-development perspective, relying on calmer seas for peace […]
Expectations and how they can distort our perception of love
Expecting your soulmate to love you the way you expect them to love you will blind you in a way that you will miss to see all the love and affection that they are showering on you in their own way. That’s a very insightful observation about relationships, particularly when the concept of a “soulmate” […]
It’s not about doubling down on doing what is right, but to stop doing what is wrong
Focus on stopping something that you are doing wrong that is taking awaying the benefits of all the others things that you are doing correctly. The Cumulative Power of “Wrong”: Sometimes, we engage in habits, behaviors, or thought patterns that are fundamentally counterproductive or even destructive. These “wrong” actions can act like a leak in […]
Mental Afflictions as Unseen Rulers and Discomfort of Awareness
“Ultimately, happiness comes down to choosing between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions and the discomfort of being ruled by them.”― Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness Mental Afflictions as Unseen Rulers: Our “mental afflictions” are the unexamined beliefs, unresolved traumas, negative thought patterns, […]
Donkeys paradox
The Scenario: Imagine a perfectly rational donkey. This donkey is placed exactly in the middle of two equally desirable and equally accessible bales of hay. Assume the donkey is equally hungry for both bales. The Paradox: According to the premise, the donkey is perfectly rational and has no reason whatsoever to prefer one bale of […]
One bite at a time and eat the frog first
The best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. The best way to climb a mountain is one step at a time. For both of them to happen, first of all you want to do the tasks by your own choice and then you must start. Next, eat the frog first […]
What you are holding on to is holding you back. Accept and let go of what you cannot control
“What you are holding on to is holding you back”: What we hold onto: This can be many things: past hurts, resentments, rigid expectations (of ourselves, others, or life), the need for control over uncontrollable situations, specific outcomes we’re fixated on, limiting beliefs, fears, or even outdated identities. How it holds us back: When we […]
Religion is not a noun, religion must be a verb
Religion must not be blindly believed, religion must be upheld and followed. “Religion must not be blindly believed…”: This part challenges unquestioning acceptance of dogma, rituals, or narratives without personal understanding, critical engagement, or inner conviction. Blind belief can lead to rigid adherence, intolerance, hypocrisy, and a faith that is external rather than deeply integrated […]
Fight, Survive, Thrive and Protect – Attributes of a strong man
Fight: This isn’t just about physical aggression, but the capacity to strive, overcome obstacles, and confront challenges head-on. It implies courage, determination, and the willingness to stand up for oneself, one’s values, or others when necessary. It’s the active engagement with adversity rather than passive surrender. Survive: This is the foundational level of strength – […]
Main points from “Same as ever” by morgan housel
Questions to ask ourselves : ~Praveen Jada Do read the Disclaimer
Don’t wait for a perfect aim, many times you just need to take the shot
The Trap of Perfect AimWaiting for the “perfect aim” is seductive—it feels safe. You tell yourself, “I’ll start when I’m ready,” or “I’ll shoot when the target’s dead center.” But that’s a stall tactic. Life’s messy—conditions are rarely ideal. Research on procrastination (like Piers Steel’s work) shows people delay most when they overthink outcomes, chasing […]